support group

I went to a support group meeting at Fairhaven today. It was good for me, although I cried through most of it. One woman from Fairhaven was very kind, and hugged me when I got there and before I left. Very nice. The minister talked for a bit, mostly about "affirmations." He suggests having a phrase that you repeat to yourself many times a day, something positive. It's a good idea. I'll be thinking about a good phrase. He mentioned that the normal person has to repeat their story 42 times for it to help them. Wow, 42 times. I've got a lot of talking to do! One woman at my table said that she got good advice from her brother. He told her, "how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time." She thinks about that now. Every day she tells herself that she's taken another bite out of the elephant. Another woman kinda pissed me off, which is probably good. The minister mentioned something about telling yourself that your life is worth living, and this woman said that she feels that her life isn't worth living, because her husband is gone. I thought to myself, does that mean that my entire life isn't worth living, since I've never been married? Oh well. I'll go back in April. They also gave me a suggestion for a suicide survivors group, so I'll check that out too.